So I was what you might call a late bloomer when it comes to dating. I didn't get my first boyfriend until after I was in college, and I didn't really become a slave to my crazy raging hormones until I hit the big 2-0. That being said, when I did start dating, I was already pretty entrenched in several blogs that I kept, and I already had a sizable readership, including several of my close friends. While I knew that bitching about my friends on my blog(s) was a pretty dangerous undertaking, and which I for the most part avoided, I had a very hard time keeping my romantic relationships out of my blogs.
I'm not really sure what it is about dating that makes it so tempting to blog about it for the whole world to see. Probably has something to do with all of the hormones clouding your judgment. Regardless, whether it's because the relationship is going very well or because it's going down the toilet, or even because it's ended and you can't seem to stop thinking or talking about it, it's hard to keep that part of your life out of your blog. Even if you know blogging about it in a very public forum could cause problems with your partner (or ex) and even with your friends.
During my senior year of college/first year of grad school, I was in a fairly tumultuous relationship. Both of us kept blogs, both of us read each others' blogs, and both of us had a fair number of mutual friends and acquaintances who also read both of our blogs. Both of us also were better at communicating with each other through our blogs than we were with communicating with each other face to face. It all turned out very badly, and at least among my friends very publicly because of the whole blog things, and because of that, I've been fairly reluctant to blog about my relationships in a public forum ever since.
Still...sometimes I do mention my relationship here and elsewhere, and sometimes, I don't always have nice things to say. Don't get me wrong. I'm completely nuts about Kellen and he's a super wonderful guy and I have no complaints whatsoever about him. But long distance blows, and there is a part of me that really wants to talk about how lonely and frustrating it can be sometimes. I'm hesitant though, because I don't want him to think that I blame him for the situation (I don't) or don't appreciate how hard he works to include me in his life and to make me feel loved, even miles apart (I do). It's one of those topics I have to tread lightly: what is it okay for me to talk about? what is off-limits for public discussion? how can I talk about this in a way that makes it clear it's the circumstance, not the boyfriend, that I want to address?
Blogging about your relationship is rarely ever an easy topic to wade into, although it seems like something that is so important is almost impossible to avoid writing about on occasion. How do you deal with writing about relationships in your blog? Have you ever had any times when blogging about your relationship backfired?