"But! But! It's your special day!" you (and pretty much everyone else) protest. Ah. But there are so many reasons why I don't want my special day to be a big wedding. Here are a few:
- My parents live in Texas, about two hours from the nearest airport. His parents live in Oregon, about two hours from the nearest airport. We have aging grandparents sprinkled around the country, and even an aunt and her entire family in Scotland. Just mentioning "wedding" is enough to set off arguments over where it should be and in depth conversations about the logistics of getting all of these people in the same place at the same time. Have you heard the story about the fish and the bird who fell in love, but didn't have a place to live? Here's another one for you: an Oregonian and a Texan can get married, but where will they tie the knot? These are arguments I wish to avoid leading up to my special day.
- Have I mentioned before that I'm a miser? I am. A big one. And I'm not dropping $10K on one day. That's certainly special, but not the good kind of special, if you know what I mean.
- I don't want to have to deal with 200 strangers on my wedding day. I don't even like talking to people I know most of the time, because it makes me so nervous. Why would I want to have to talk to dozens of people I don't know all in a single day?
- I don't want to have to deal with bickering relatives on my wedding day. Family, I love you to pieces, but I know how you all are (I'm talking to Kellen's side, too) and I especially know how you are when you all get together. Where would you all rather be on your wedding day? Peaceful, quiet romantic getaway with your lover? Or hectic, stressful packed venue with 20 stubborn, opinionated, and very vocal relatives? And if I still haven't driven my point home, just think about how hard it is to plan for Christmas when we go to the same place and everyone brings the same dishes every year. You really want to have to go through that (times a bajillion) for a wedding?
- I love to travel, and I'd love to combine my special day with doing something that I actually like--seeing something new.